A woman who bought her mother-in-law a thoughtful Christmas gift was left stunned when she asked her to return it because she “hated” it.
The unnamed woman explained that every year, she and her husband buy his mum a scarf, but this year she decided to commission a local artist to make a painting of her mum-in-law and her daughter.
“I sent a picture of them to the artist and she basically digitally made the painting with their images exactly like they were shown in the photo”, she explained.
She loved how the painting turned out and couldn’t wait to give it to her, but when she received it, she was less than impressed.
She said: “About a week later I get a call from [father-in-law] saying [mother-in-law] hates the painting because she doesn’t like how she looks in the painting.
“He basically asked me to have another one made with x, y, and z different about the painting.”
After spending $180 (approximately £132) on the artwork, the woman said she felt deflated by the response she received.
She added: “It sucks she doesn’t like it but I feel like it’s kind of rude to tell me they don’t like it and even more rude to assume I should buy a new one.”
The woman said that although she doesn’t always like the gifts she receives from her in-laws she always accepts them graciously, and either exchanges them or gives them away instead of telling them she hates them.
Now, she’s considering buying her a scarf like they usually do instead.
She shared the post on Reddit to ask users what she should do.
One person said: “Definitely get her a scarf. And then get her a scarf for everything.”
Another wrote: “Please, for your future sanity, do not buy her a new gift (even a scarf) and just say ‘hey I actually put a lot of thought and money into that gift and it’s hurtful to me that you 1) don’t like it and 2) expect a new one. Unfortunately, that was all my budget had for this Christmas and next year I will make sure to get something different’.
“I don’t know but you need to not let them walk all over you. That’s so so rude? Who tells someone they hate their gift and asks for a new one, regardless of what it is?”
And a third said: “It was a gift. If she doesn’t like it the respectful thing to do is to accept it and move on. You obviously put a lot of thought and money into this gift and she and [father-in-law] are [a*] for expecting you to replace it.”